Hello i have a question. My wife likes it when i call her a naughty slut or a little white slut in bed during sex...does that mean she is fantasizing about being with a black man? thanks for your time.
Ah... not really. It's called "verbal" and I myself enjoy it. Now if she was screaming out "fuck me with your huge black dick" maybe. Personally, I think you should just fuck that dirty little whore good and enjoy what you have. :)
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UPDATE RE: Not So Lost Love
Emily,
I took your advice to heart, thought if over through and through. Then I emailed her brother. Thanks...
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Emily,
I'm trying to find a cuckoldress and no luck. Can you help?
Well I've said it for a long time, I think you guys are looking in all the wrong places. I'm guessing you're into IR sex (or why would you be on this site :). But you guys all seem to find the wrong girls. If you were into Boating would you look for a mate at a Ren Faire? If you were into Biking would you look at a Bingo game? Times have changed since Mojo started this site. Most Black guys know about cuckold relationships and I'm assuming the white girls that hang around them might also. So, hit up places where Black males and white females congregate. Hip Hop shows, basketball games, umm.. You get the idea. That is going to give you a much better chance then finding Ms. Vanilla and then trying to talk her into it. Good Luck!
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Emily, I was reading another question and I have a somewhat similar situation. Some might call me crazy but this is honestly how I feel. Both myself and my girl are bi. I've been with a lot of people, in a lot of situations and she has also. The thing is Emily I really just want to be with her now. I call it whores remorse. I've been touched by too many people I couldn't stand or didn't like just for the sex of it. (Sometimes drugs played a part in it also) The thing is she keeps hinting at 3 somes. Not that I'd mind, but it really doesn't matter to me with her. I really just want to be with her. I know that sounds like teh ghey but it's true. Is she really that into it, or is she just doing something thinking it will please me?
Birds of a feather huh.. First off, wanting to be with only one person isn't like you say "teh ghey," it's wonderful that a manwhore like you can be that in touch with their feelings. As far as the threesome thing. I dunno. Maybe she really needs it, maybe she is doing it just for you, and maybe a little of both. It sounds like you two have similar experiences and are more or less on the same page. I'm sure with a little open and honest communication you can work it out. I think you're miles ahead of most. Good Luck!
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Emily,
This isn't your usual question but I don't know where else to turn. A few years ago I was in a relationship with this girl. Things got really messy and fucked up. We both made mistakes, or probably in hindsight over reacted to things. Also, I became good friends with her brother. I don't have a lot of guy friends and I really liked her brother and when things ended one of the hard parts was losing not only her but my friendship with her brother. We used to see each other or talk 2 or 3 times a week. As an example when I quit my job her bother was the first person I called. Last week or so I got an email from her brother out of the blue. I really brought back a lot of memories and it seems strange he would contact me after so long. I told a friend and they told me she had moved back to town (she moved away) and changed careers and we were doing almost the exact same thing! The thing is I feel as if I've blown it again because I didn't know any of this. I don't look at her My Space or Facebook or Twitter or anything. I can't handle it. She might have been saying to contact her or something and I would have never known because I never ever check any of those things where she might leave any kind of message. I'm not sure what to do Emily, I don't want to blow it again, and I'm afraid I might have sent mixed messages or no messages. Help me Emily.
As much as I love social networking this is one of the big problems. You post something and you assume the other person that is supposed to see it does. While it might be her brother contacted you out of the blue, it might also be more. What I think you should do is this. Ask yourself what it is you really want. You obviously still have feelings for her, and possibly her for you. Ask yourself if you can accept her now. You don't know what has been happening in her life. She might have a kid, have been married, or be married, who knows. Can you move past that? Can you move past anything that might have happened in between and start anew? Can you also accept that maybe her brother did contact you out of the blue and the best you're ever going to get out of this is to reestablish contact with her bother? And one other thing. If your answer is yes, you better not ever change you mind. If this girl has held onto her feelings for you all this time, and is now reaching out, you had better not ever EVER EVER react in anyway to hurt her because of what might have happened when you were not around. If you are sure, and I mean totally sure of what you want, then go ahead and contact her brother again. Take it one step at a time. See where it goes. If you aren't sure of your feelings, let it go. Good Luck!
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Hello Emily,
I REALLY need your opinion and help on a few things involving my girlfriend. So I've been dating this girl for a total of maybe 8 months and we officially put a title on it a like 3 months ago. It may sound crazy cuz it's so soon but we both are really in love with each other. I'm 22 and she's 20. See, I'm white and she's the first black girl I've been with. I'm also the first white guy she's ever been with. One question I need to know is, how much does size really matter?? We met on the internet when she sent me a message. We then talked on the phone and it was odd at first to me that when I told her my height and weight and she said excitidley, "Oh, so you must be packin" (u kno, meaning I must have a big dick). She actually kinda asked it twice when we were on the phone to be exact. After getting to know each other more, meeting, and spending time with each other she told me she slept with 8 other guys before me and they ALL were black. We got to talking about size and it came down to the fact that 2 of the black guys she was with were smaller than me and the rest were bigger. I'm just about 6" long, and just under 5" in girth. Her ex who she was with for 2 years and broke up with not too long before she met me, was a solid 8' long and very thick she said. It's crazy because she tells me I'm the best she's ever been with. even better than him. The problem is that I've never been insecure about my dick really except now with her. I've been with 8 other women besides her and I've never got a complaint once. I've always been athletic too and in my opinion, I think I can work it pretty good in the bedroom. I just don't believe her when she says I'm the best she's ever been with because of the other guy's being bigger than me. What do you think?? Also.. When I first started talking to her about sex and our favorite positions and what not, she made a comment saying "I like to feel it in my stomach!" I'd assume u'd have to be as big as her ex (8') or close to it to make her feel it "in her stomach" right? Another thing I didn't believe was that one time we were having sex i wasn't super hard (prob between 5 1/2" and 6") and we were in missionary position when she said, "Oh I feel you in my stomach!" Do you think she really felt me that deep maybe because the position we were in at the time or do you think she was lying?? Out of the 9 women I've slept with she's prob the 3rd or 4th loosest but the sex is still better than anyone I've been with. Sometimes I just feel like she'd rather have a bigger dick in her because of her past and because sometimes when i start thinking about it it begins to feel a little loose to me. Another thing is that I can fit 4 fingers in her at once and that turns me on but at the same time does scares me. I love her but sometimes I just don't know if I'm pleasing her all the way. I try hard to and she's even actually the first female I really enjoy giving oral to. She says I am pleasing her better than anyone ever has and I wanna believe it but it's almost like her past of big dicks keeps haunting me. That prob sounds funny but it's not. Our sex IS very sensual tho at times and she tells me nobody has ever made love to her the way I have. I still can't seem to believe 100% that she's fully pleased tho. A little extra info too.. she's worked at an adult store before and she did tell me when we started talking how sex is real important to her. She also lost her virginity at 14 too. And one more thing... She has a lot of friends, all being girls, and some are "good" girls but her best friend and most of the rest are cheaters, sluts, and bustdowns. Emily please help me. Based on the info I've given do you think I'm pleasing her? Do you think she may be a hoe? Or do you think I'm overthinking it all and maybe she has been with her share in the past but is actually fully pleased with me in bed??? Please respond as soon as possible thank you very much. And sorry this letter was so long...
Sincerely,
Bryan
Bryan,
Wow... First off, you're 22. When you are twice your age you'll be 44 which is still young. If you are this concerned with the size of your dick at your age and wrecking a relationship because of it, you are in for a long, miserable and lonely life. There are guys with big dicks out there, there are guys with really big dicks out there. But she is telling you that you please her. Why isn't that enough for you? You are acting like a douche. Another thing about size. Unless you are hung like a baby's pinkie having your cock hard and ready for her when she wants it is more important to a female. The stiffness of your dick is to a female a direct relation to your interest in her.
You need to get over this. Perhaps get some professional help. Because like I said, if you don't get over it, you ARE in for a lonely life.
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Hello Emily:
I have a serious question for you. About 3 yrs ago, my wife, (then girlfriend) and I separated as I was a dog and moved out to be with a younger asain lady. My wife, now 40 (a Filipina) and I while dating have always watched interracial porn and she knew I wanted her to fuck black guys. We even played with black dildos. So for the month that I was away she started to fuck black guys. She would call me before and after her dates and I would rush over in the morning and do her as well.
Needless to say we got back together and she did one more guy for me as I helped her put on her garterbelt and such. Well two weeks after that we got married. But right before we said " I Do" she said she wasn't going to fuck black guys anymore. Oh Crap! Well I've been hoping she would change her mind but she hasn't.
For the last three years she still plays with the toys and watches only interracial movies. She even wears the panties to bed that she was fucked in. She's kept the stockings that she bought to wear for those guys but she won't wear any garterbelt or stockings for me. She tells me its only for black dick.
The question is will she ever go back to black guys? She told me they gave her the best sex ever and that one of them really knew how to make love to her. When I inquire she tells me that I don't respect her. What can I do if anything to get her to start fucking black guys again?
Blank Frank
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I don't know why you think I don't take every question serious. I do. Now to your situation. You're going to have to ask yourself if you are willing to loose her, because that's pretty much what might happen if you pursue this. She has made a decision, and probably only fucked Black guys to show you what you were missing. So her attitude of respecting her wishes is pretty solid. And after three years, you should figure that it is pretty much a thing of the past. You really have very few options on this. But what you might try is this. I'm willing to bet she doesn't like interracial porn, doesn't like black dildos and all the rest. So what you might try is telling her you don't feel she respects you, because she isn't being totally honest about what she truly likes. Now, that being said, she might say, only you and want candle lit dinners and soft music. And then you'll be stuck with that. So... it's really up to you. I don't see an easy way out for you, and the only way is to get her to open up, hope like hell it's something pervy and kinky, do it for her, then tell you'll keep doing it if she fucks black guys for you. And hope she gets off enough to take you up on it. Or, find someone else and move on. Good Luck!
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Met this wonderful girl sometime back and we plan to be married soon she has had more sexual experience than me and she has shared a lot of her fantasies with which include sex on the beach and in other public places, my problem is im a bit bicurious and have always wanted mfm encounter and i would love to bring another guy in, she once told me that she has a fantasy of being watched by a guy while making out but said she would like him to join in as she wants to keep it between us but now she keeps asking me about my fantasies and wants to make them real for me, She often likes dressing sexy and enjoys attention from men and like teasing me, and her close friends who are married do sleep around and have encouraged her to do so. do you think she secretly likes the promiscuous lifestyle but is afraid i will leave, does she sound like someone who will enjoy mfm enounters.how do you think is the best way for me to bring this with her, please advive me
Ian
It sounds to me Ian like she is trying to figure out what it is you want to be the best she can be for you. My recommendation you're probably not going to agree with at first but here it is. Go suck a dick. Go to a gay bar, website, bath house or whatever and get some cock. Figure out what it is you really want. You sound extremely conflicted. Also, the part about her friends sleep around and are encouraging her too? No female is going to get married unless you got some phat cash planning on sleeping around. She can already do that. If her friends are swingers or something like that, that is different. But for now, knock off this "curious" part and find out what it is you really want. Then discuss it with her. Good Luck!
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My wife Ann and I have been married for 27 years. She is 49 and very sexy and likes to dress like a street walker when we go out to swing clubs and interracial bars. We always go together. She wears 4" heels micro mini skirts or dresses with halter tops no panties or bra. She has been fucking well hung black men for 10 years and has probably fucked more than 150 black men. She always does them bareback and enjoys creampies and facials. When we go out it is always at my request. She never asks me I always have to be the one who asks her if she wants to "go fuck black men". While she never says no and always enjoys herself when she is getting hammered by her black stallions the night always starts out with her acting like she doesn't want to go and says something like, "I didn't get married to fuck other men". She has been with guys one on one and many gang bangs. And when we are on our way home she always says she liked getting fucked by her black studs and she says they always make her cum many times. My question is, "how do I get her to arrange her own parties and talk about how much she likes it before we go out". Also how do I get her to go out on her own without me and solicit black men in bars and clubs and fuck them by herself in hotels or their apartments? I would like for her to fuck black men on her own at least once a week. Thanks.
Mark, Cuckold hubby in ohio.
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She is telling you how she feels. No matter how many feet of Black Cock she's taken over the years, she didn't get married to fuck other men. No woman does. We can get all the cock we want, when we want, where we want. She does this to make you happy. Believe it or not. Yes she enjoys the sex. Yes she cums. But if you sat her down and had a heart to heart talk with her, she would, chances are tell you she'd be just as happy sitting at home with you watching T.V. So let it go dude. You are living a life most only dream about. The fact that she doesn't conform to your fantasy 100% isn't worth pushing her comfort zone over. Enjoy what you got, you gots more than most.
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Emily,
My wife is sexy, and she knows it. But I can never get her to get any kind of freaky. The freakiest that she gets is doggy style. Anyway My question is how do I get her to open up her inner slut for me? I want her to feel safe telling me her deepest fantasies. I told her that she can and she said that she just feels like she can't because I will feel different about her. But if anything it will make me feel hotter for her but no matter how much I tell her she does not do it. Do you have any advice that can help me?
John
Very difficult situation John. There is clearly something in her past that she feels is so off putting she can't open up about it. I think you have to take your time, and consistently reassure her that you will feel different about her. That you will love her more for being open and trusting in you. Let her know that no matter what it is, (and it might be incest, molestation, rape, who knows what...) that you will never judge her and that strong relationships are based on trust. Don't keep making it about sex, turn it around to be about trust, relationship and love.
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Emily,
My wife and I have been married 9 years, for the last 7 years I have been working on getting her to be a hotwife. I have made some really good progress, but she is still hesitant on doing it. I am pretty certian that if I found a "friend" to seduce her it would work, but I am hesitant, very nervous, to find someone from a personal ad. What I am afraid of is her finding out it is a setup.. or him telling her too much.. blowing our cover...etc.
Any advice on finding the right guy?
My wife dresses hot, likes attention from men, loves using her dildos, talking about her past lovesr.. she even refers to herself as a "dirty slut" when talking about her high shcool and college years. She also knows that my friends sometimes refer to her as "Horny Karen" because they know that she loves sex... she likes that they call her that. FYI - she doesn't want to have sex with any of my friends, but likes that they know she is horny and that they think she is hott.
Thanks,
Mike
Why is it that guys always try to do this? Why do you think tricking her or seducing her or whatever is the way to go about things? Second, women are far more intuitive then men. I'm sure she senses your fear. She might even be more into it then you imagine but is holding back because she senses your fear. My advice is the same as always. Have a serious heart to heart talk with her. Confess your excitement and your fears. Set some initial boundaries. Let her know you don't want to loose her, and if she gives it a try (the lifestyle and not a one time only) and is uncomfortable it will stop. Be honest dude. You'd be surprised how much women appreciate that and will do almost anything if you are. Good Luck!
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Dear Emily
I am 21 and have been married for 6 months. I am happy and I love my husband which also is 21. However, I was with alot of guys before I got married and I now realize that I need lots of cock. I want to have an open married so I can fuck lots of hot guys. Not only that but I want to be a slut wife for my husband. How do I let him no my slutty desires without him having "traditional" thinking.
Kayla
You don't know how long I've been waiting for this question. It's about time us gals took the Bull by the tool! :) Well this isn't a lot of information to go on but I'll do my best. I've always found the best way is to make him think it's his idea. When you say "Slut Wife" I'm guessing you mean Black guys and you're white. So... watch a football, basketball game, LL Cool J movie, just about anything. Make some comments about "the rumors." That night when you're fucking tell him how hard he is, and how turned on he seems to be and ask if it's because of what you were talking about. Get him into it then. Then let it drop. A couple of days later, tell him how you've thought it over, and you're going to do it for him (fuck a black guy in front of him.) If he tries to back out, tell him you know it's what he wants and you're willing to do it for him because you love him so much. Don't take no for an answer! He might be nervous but make sure he knows you're doing this FOR HIM! The rest should take care of itself. Get back to me with any more questions or the results! Good Luck!
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My wife and I have been living the cuckold lifestyle for the past three years. In that time she has had 7 or 8 black lovers. She video tapes the encounters and gives them to me and I love watching them. The tapes are hot but i'd really like to be there in the room with them and witness the whole thing live. My wife always says her lovers are not cool with my being there so I don't push the issue. I just sit back and enjoy the tapes and our sex life has been great but recently I talked to one of her lovers online and he said that he was OK with me coming and when I told my wife she still refused and said that it wouldn't be the same for her if I was there. I really want to be there but the tapes are great too. How can I get her to let me come with her just once. Thanks
Honestly dude, I don't think it's going to happen. I'm sure she has many reasons, possible guilt with you there, unable to relax, you interrupting, who knows. But she doesn't want you there and you need to enjoy what you've got. What you might try to do is ask her kindly and without pressure if you can just be there once, maybe as a birthday present. If it happens, be grateful and keep your mouth shut about it happening again. If she doesn't feel pressured maybe she'll do it again for your anniversary or Christmas. Who knows, but learn to enjoy what you've got, it's a lot more than many. And speaking of which, why don't you send in some of those video clips to Mojo and let the rest of us in on the action. Share the wealth homey... :)
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My girlfriend and I have done the hotwife scene just a couple of times and want to do it more often. Here is the problem, Her body is rejecting birth control, It causes her problems off and on all month. So she quit taking it. She is doing just fine now. But here is our problem. We don't want her getting pregnant. She also loves it bareback, but is willing to give that up. My question is, would condoms and pulling out before cumming be safe enough to prevent her from getting pregnant? Any advice would be helpful. Its too bad that she will miss out on some of the things she enjoys. Like bareback, and having a cum filled pussy. She loves getting real slutty for her men. Thanks!
First off, what are you doing for her? Have you thought of getting a vasctomy? It might be a nice jesture. Second, you should always practice safe sex regardless unless you know the people extremely well. Picking people up off the Internet, in bars, where ever is fraught with danger and you need to protect yourself (wife). If someone says they won't fuck with a condom, kick them to the curb. Simple as that. Yes bareback is best, but health is better! As far as your question goes, a condom and facials should keep the risk of pregnacy down to a minimum, and after wards you can fill her pussy with cum like she likes it. She can still be extremely slutty and be safe at the same time. I know I can... :)
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HOW DO I GET MY WIFE INTO THE BBC, WERE BOTH WHITE AND 33
A little more info would be nice, why don't you join Slut Wife Finder and try your luck there? That's about all I can advise on one line.
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My wife is a very sexy lady. I am 52. She is 48 and still looks great! When we first met I told her in no uncertain terms that she had my unconditional permission to play if she ever felt the need or desire. All I asked of her was honesty between us. Now, most men would not even consider this or even think of saying such a thing to thier woman. However, I am very uninhibited and maybe just a little more oversexed than most. My greatest desire is to witness my wife become an unihibited sexualy liberated woman. I want so much for her to live her fantasies before we are both too old to even think about sex.
Can you help me understand how I might break down the barriers she has built up around her sexualy? What steps should I take to unleash the slut I see inside her just dying to get out? In the past she has done some incredibly eroyic and risque things and then regretted them to the point of shutting down sexualy. Ashamed I assume. But, on a trip tp Tampa for business I know she enjoyed having a man up to her room for a romp. Although she denies it vehemntly, i have the proof but will not press it because I am hopefull such behavior will repeat itself with me there the next time. If of course the situation was just right.
I want to join a swingers club in our area that meets twice a month at a private club for dancing and partying. I certainly do not want her to think I am forcing her to do anything but, I do want to introduce her to the lifestyle regardless of whether she plays or not. I would love it if she did embrace it, but if all she got out of it was an eye opening I would be happy. What should I do to help her open up and enjoy herself? Should I try to introduce her to the lifestyle? I want to unleash the passion and sexual desire bubling under the surface that I see held so fervently back.
There is a bigger issue at play here. First off, read what you wrote. Notice anything? No? Read it again. Notice it now? There is no "I" in we. I'm guess here, that this is how your are coming across to her. And of course she is reluctant. Because when does "I" become, "I" want to fuck someone else, "I" want to have a threesome, "I" want a divorce. You need to change all that. Start with we and go from there. Good Luck!
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i am a white man 38yo in great shape married to a hot BBW with 40DD and a sexy ass she loves sex and giving head we have done 3somes befor but only with white guys im str8 but love to see her getting fucked how do i get her to go black? i have asked her to try it now for about 4yrs
Well clearly there is nothing you can do or it would have happened already. So you're going to have to look outside yourself. Maybe she has racial issues, or maybe it's in her upbringing. Do you associate much around Black men? If not I would suggest exposing her to more Black males. Sports bars, jazz clubs, etc. Do you ride a motorcycle? There are an increasing number of Black sports bike clubs, maybe find out where they hang and just drop by. Good Luck!
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Slut Emily, you are such a clever girl!
Thanks!
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Emily I hope u can help,
U ahve a movie on here called Sexretary - I believe someone I no is in a similar situation. We belonged 2 the camping club years ago and I know this isn't who she is. I want 2help but I don't really know how. I thought of kidnapping her but that's pretty gay. What should I do?
Local Chapter President of the Save a Stripper Club? Listen, no one can be saved unless they want to be. Look at Britney Spears. On the other hand, sometimes people wind up in situations that they didn't see coming or didn't think would last. (like writing an advice column for a Slut Wife site 8 years later) That being said, I don't think you should contact her. If this is true you don't want her to feel pressured. If you have a mutual female friend have her reach out. Nothing heavy, just let her know she is there and see what happens. Also, you're really going to have to think this one through, because if this is true you're going to have to let her past go if she contacts you. From her perspective there is no difference between kicked in the teeth by a muddy boot and a Gucci loafer. Being kicked in the teeth is being kicked in the teeth. And if you get used to one, at least you know what's coming. So have a female you both know reach out to her. If she responds take it from there. If not, let it go dude. There are plenty of strippers you can spend your whole life trying to save and maybe even get laid in the process. LOL Good Luck!
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72 years old fucking my wife (65) only ounce a week and always in the one major hole (she just don’t like in the ass and not as well in the mouth since I have a very abundant precum. Bad luck for me! We are married only since 8 years (my second, her third marriage). She had many many affairs during and between her marriages but since we know each other she is on monogamy. But, I would be so pleased that she would fuck around and she knows that, even having the possibility to do so. She looks still very attractive, sees regularly some men I know they would like to fuck her but she stays to my distress hard on platonic relationships. What shall I do?? I thought about not to fuck her a while do get her sex hungry, but then she will probably use her dildo more often. What else can I do? Please help!
Many regards
Robert out of Switzerland
Hi Robert!
I'm just guessing, but at that age she probably knows exactly what she wants, and that seems to be you and monogamy. My best guess is to be open and honest with her and let her know why it's important to you to see her with other men. Not just "it would turn me on" but reasons deeper than that. And denying her sex or treating her badly isn't going to win you any battles. Just be kind, open and honest. Like I tell everyone, that's your best bet. Good Luck!
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Emily,
This is a little different even for you. There is this girl, and I think about her often. And have for a very long time. We had a relationship a few years ago and things went horribly wrong. I don't think either one of us were ready for it, and we didn't understand the impact that it would have on both of our lives. I really want to see her and talk about things. I don't think things are working out very well for either one of us being apart, and I know it would be difficult because we both have changed since then, but I'm willing to try. The other issue is her friends will never accept me, and actually were one of the main reasons things went wrong. Any clues?
Honestly, no. If she has any of the same feelings as you, she is just going to have to realize you can't run from your heart, - that's a race you'll never win. And all the outside influences, aren't going to be a lasting substitute. Look at the "stars" that have everything one would image and how sad their lives are. Drugs, rehab, suicide attempts, etc. It's always easy to say shit like move on, put it behind you, and all that bullshit. But sometimes that just isn't the solution and you need to finish what you started. It takes two too tango and you both got yourselves into this, and it's going to take you both to get yourselves out of it sounds like. Good Luck!
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Hello Slut Emily,
I just want to tell you and Mojo how much my life has changed after viewing this site. I've always had submissive thoughts and fantasies. I thought I was all alone, but now I see that I'm not. I want moare than anything to be dominated and controlled by a hot girl. I mean not really pretty but you know... How do I find a girl like this? For the right girl it would just be game on!!! Do girls know when they meat a guy that he's submissive? Please help Slut Emily, and tell Mojo I like Apple products also! ;)
Andy
Andy, I'm glad the site has been beneficial to you. But really all the credit goes to Mojo. I just don't know how he does it! But back to you. A girl can get a general feeling about someone yes. And as time goes on that only increases. However, this is a slippery slope because guys like you are susceptible to very manipulative females that will just use you to get what they want with no intention of ever "giving back" to you. But maybe that's ok with you. You'll have to decide for yourself. Personally I am attracted to a guy that won't put up with any thing I might pull. I guess it's like the old saying, "what's the difference between a boy and a man? Bullshit. It's all boy knows and a man won't tolerate it." You might also sign up for the new Slut Wife Finder site (see the banner up top?)
Good Luck Andy!
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I'm a black male married to a great lady who is white. We got married and traveled off to Las Vegas for a week and a half of fun. The 2nd night we were there we decided its time to consumate this marriage. Now instead of my wife being treated to a big blk 10 inch-like cock, I sport a 4 incher at full erection. Needless to say , my wife looked up at me and gave me that, "damn wheres the rest of it?", look. Im one of those black guys who are not well hung. My wife always a postiive person gets back down on her knees to suck my cock. The only thing was , not 3 min into it , my wife pulls her lips off my cock to say something when i had my orgasm. Cum was flying out my cock like a faucet. My wife looks up at me, and i said sorry. She smiled, saying it was ok, that we have plenty of time to get it on. That was embarrassing!!!
The next day we took a bus tour to the grand canyon, meeting another couple on the way. Derrick who is black and his gf Marcy who is white. We hit it off great with them. Derrick stated that he's been to Vegas several times. We we decided we were gonna hang out together and let Derrick show us the sights without the visitors guidebook. For the next 3 days Derrick took us everywhere and back. The 3 rd night were got all dressed up and went to a show then went to the slots at the MGM Grand. We drank soo much liquor the bill was $320 , but Marcy paid the bill. She won $5500 at the slot she was at. My wife suggested that we go up to our honeymoon suite to celebrate, so we all headed up there. Me and Marcy had the most to drink , and by the time we got to the suite i had to sit down. my wife goes over to turn the radio on, while derrick closed the door behind him, outting the "do not disturb" sign on the door . marcy is drunk and throws the money around , spreading it all over the floor. she starts dancing with march and my wife walks over to them gyrating her hips against derrick. Now by this time i was drunk and half out of it. Then i passed out. Im not sure how much time had passed but before i opened my eyes, i heard a woman going, "oohhhhh shittttt derrick", and slapping sounds. I open my eyes and there derrick on the bed with my wife vicky , pounding a large black cock deep into my wife. I looked over to my right and there was marcy naked on the couch passed out. At this point the alcohol was still affecting me, but i was staring with my jaw wide open. I didnt even consumate the marriage with my own wife and there derrick was taking my place. instead of being mad or jealous , i actually was in awe of derrick. I mean all the alcohol he drank and he still had the endurance and stamina to fuck marcy , wearing her out and now deep-dicking my wife. I. i went back to sleep and didnt wake up until about 9 am the next morning. i was still on the couch naked this time, which i dont know how that happened, my wife was on the bed naked. she woke up and said she was sorry for fucking another man, but i think deep down she loved the hell out of it. I told her it was ok, that we got drunk and things got crazy, but as long as she had fun then it was ok. she told me, "well i guess what happens in vegas stays in vegas.
After we got back form Vegas , things were pretty much normal , except for our sex life. We used more toys, dildos , vibrators, adult films. I used my tongue moreso on my wife than my cock. One day I went off to work telling my wife that after work I would be going out of town on business, coming back in a few days. While at work my boss announced that the trip was off, for reasons unknown. So after work , I got some red roses for my wife and drove on home. Getting to the house their was a bright red Mercedes parked in the drive way. Not knowing who the car belonged to , I took my keys and entered the house. All I heard walking in were music playing upstairs and moaning. I walked up the stairs and in the master bedroom was this Italian guy on top of my wife fucking her like a jackhammer. The guy was hung like a Shetland pony had a small box of durex xxl condoms on the nightstand.
My question is , how can I compete? I cant outdo him in the cock dept , is their any other way?
Better and Mercedes than a Pinto. But seriously you have already "outdone" him becuase she married you. She has made a commitment to you and is only just fucking him. What you need to do is open honest and direct communication with her, let her know you are there for her and understand her needs, Then have her engage you in her "activities" so you both can share that as well. Because now, her life is part of your life and vice versa. Good Luck!
UPDATE: Hello Emily, here is what happened after talking to my wife. She said she felt I may have realized what was going on. Our sex life has been much different after the honeymoon in Vegas. She said she loves me and that what shes doing with Giovanni is just a sex thing. Giovanni is the Italian I found fucking my wife in our marriage bed. My wife made sure she corrected me on one thing, Giovanni doesn’t have a 10 inch cock, hes actually 11 inches. Geez, talk about comparing a Mercedes to a Pinto J It feels a bit odd being a black guy , married to a white lady who is having fun with her Italian stallion. I guess some would think I would be the one with the horse cock doing the white ladies. However it is erotic , and we do love each other.
When then you've discovered "the secret." Loving and accepting each other for who and what you are is the key to happiness. I wish more people on this planet could figure that out. Keep in touch with me, thanks for writing back and Good Luck!
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Dear Emily,
You suggested the husband was likely correct to doubt his wife's disposition after he made a stink of it the first time...,
Why not say, "Honey, I am sorry I made such a stink about your lover the first time, I think I have grown now, and I want you to know that your happiness is THE most important thing to me..."
Open her up to the idea once again...?
Am I wrong?
I'm not sure what this is referencing. My opinions are simply that.
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At the risk of sounding stupid or very naive.. Please answer a couple questions! After many faithful years on her part..Not mine i admit... She came out of shyness and did my best friend...Three times! She never wore any make-up ever or dressed up..Esp heels in 20 years..Even once! No make up, perfume, the entire boring 9 yards.Then i noticed as she went on her first "ladies night out (after 19 years of marriage), she wore a bright sexy lipstick, perfume, 5" high heels, no undies! She doesn't ever drink but came home bombed with her lipstick smudged badly, cum stains on her bra...And she was still leaking my friends cum out of her? She admits she now loves b.J's, from behind sex, taping sexual sessions, & wants me to "clean her up " when she gets home. I think i want too..I'm confused. I did partially the other nite and was excited..Immensly. Did i create a slut or was she longing for that role? (She enloys being called my slut?)! Bill
Women like to be challenged. Something about your friend challenged her and she stepped up and explored her limits. If I were you, I'd thank my lucky stars, and embrace that fact that you have what millions can only dream of and probably will never have.
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My wife and I have been married about 14 years; early in our relationship she was aware of my interest in sharing her with other men. Apprehensive but interested, she agreed to meet some people to see were it went and over time with much encouragement and my support, we found the right guy to play with in a MFM threesome. This arrangement worked fine for us over the last 5 or six years and involved a total of 4 different men and a couple. It was the kind of thing we did maybe twice or three times a year. I didn't push the issue, although I would have preferred to do it more regularly.
About two years ago she told me she didn'twant to participate any more, saying "it doesn‚t do anything for me" although I was very disappointed, again I didn't push it, and tried to understand. My problem is this, over this time; I have developed feelings of resentment and betrayal towards my wife. Our sex life is practically non existent, I know she is frustrated but I feel I can‚t talk with her about this. I believe I have been a devoted husband in our marriage; there isn‚t anything I wouldn‚t do, or have not done, to make my wife happy, from new cars to vacations, to even a vasectomy. (so she could come off the pill)
I can‚t help but feel, that after all this time of being upfront with my interests and her agreeing and participating with me, she suddenly pulled the plug on an activity she knows gives me great pleasure, but I know gives her physical pleasure as well... (she had multiple organisms and was very receptive to the other men) In addition, our adventures always resulted in heightened sexual activity between us that lasted for weeks at a time.
Other than this issue, I guess you could say we are happy and do everything together, but I‚m sad that we can‚t share this "special hobby" together as we used to anymore. Any suggestions would be helpful.
A depressed husband
Oh man, I come back and this is the first thing I get? Why me??? Although I'm not a "qualified" professionally, it seems pretty obvious that your marriage is for all intents over. Both of you probably harbor deep feelings of resentment for each other. And although you still remain friends on some level, (after all 14 years is along time) the love has gone, and in my opinion so is the marriage. Get to a marriage counselor and see what they have to say, but personally I think (unless kids are involved) it's just best to move on. Sorry, I just don't see it any other way. Good luck with whatever outcome.
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Dear Slut Emily
I am fascinated by cuckolding and the whole act of it etc. Recently my friends wife left him and is living with another guy. My question is at what point did she cuckold him? What I mean by that is did he become a cuckold the 1st time she fucked her new guy(or any other guy for that matter). Or does she have to tell him that she is fucking another guy or guys before he becomes a cuckold? Or does he have to actually see her getting fucked? I suppose any of them would make him a cuckold but at what point does the husband get official cuckold status? Another question is the husband did not want any of this to happen but he is still considered a cuckold isn't he? I mean after all his wife was fucking another guy while she was still married to him. Sorry for asking so many questions but is it getting to be quite common for wives to cuckold their husbands whether or not they want to be? It seems to me that there is so much on the internet and even TV shows - at least porn movies - involving the cuckold theme and go black and bigger is better and slutwife, milf, etc that a lot of wives must give into temptation. Or perhaps they have a friend who has already tried it and can't help but steer a slutty friend in the same direction. Thanks for your time.
Kent
Wikipedia defines it as this: A cuckold is a married man whose wife has sex with other men. In current usage it sometimes refers to non-married couples in committed relationships as well, although the traditional meaning is a man whose wife is adulterous.
There are connotations of helplessness and humiliation attributed to the word: implications that the husband lacks the strength to enforce marital fidelity traditionally accorded to a husband as head of his household. He is too weak, too stupid, or too henpecked to leave or divorce her.
Dictionary.com defines it as this: –noun
1. the husband of an unfaithful wife.
–verb (used with object)
2. to make a cuckold of (a husband).
However what I believe you're referring to is where the Wife does not leave the marriage. The husband still provides all the "typical" husband duties, but sex and sexual relations are cut off. Additionally, elements of humiliation, castration, servitude to herself or her lovers, cross dressing, homosexual acts, and submission ranging from moderate to severe can be part of the arraignment. This is entered to willingly by both parties.
As far as it growing in popularity you are correct, but at least to me it mostly seems to be driven by the males desire for this, rather than the females.
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Emily,
My wife gave birth months ago and I have only had about 30 minutes worth of sex on 3 separate times. Recently she has had to train her new boss (whom is an attractive black male) on some sort of software programs at work. I made a comment to her about being careful around him since I did not want him to get to comfortable around her and make a pass at her. I am now wondering if he is hitting that thing? What is a sure sign that he probably is? I need help! thanks. PS I have to masturbate daily because of this.
You have to masturbate daily because you're cut off, or the thought of him hitting it? ;p Is he flirting with her, chances are yes. And chances are she encouraged it, either passively or openly. Giving birth is a huge thing for a woman. Not only do you undergo the obvious changes, but things like your nose gets wider, your ears grow and other things. So after words you can feel unattractive and a little attention goes a long way. Now, as far as a sure sign, I'm not sure there are any. If she wants to get some on the side and hide it, she probably can. I suppose I'd look for the usual, long hours at work, lame excuses why she isn't spending more time with you, distance in communication, and others. Good Luck!
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And as a final word, yes I've been away for awhile. I now am finished with school and can spend a little more time here. I also want to thank Mojo for being patient, and the fabulous job he did on the site. All of you really should join up and support it. It's well worth it.
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